how to create a life of happiness Mar 16, 2021
Take action to live a life of happiness
Previously published March 3, 2019


Taking action is the FIRST thing to do to start living a life of Happiness! 



  1. What makes you happy?
  2. What steps can you take to live a life of happiness?
  3. Are you willing to take the necessary steps to make it happen?


Let’s explore what the word, “Happiness” means. The dictionary definition is, “The state of being happy”. But that could mean many different things to many different people. 

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  • Getting a promotion at your job
  • Becoming an entrepreneur 
  • Being a stay at home mom or dad
  • Traveling the world 

Whatever happiness means to you, you cannot get there without taking action towards that goal. 

Sometime around the beginning of last year’s holiday season, my life goals and priorities began to shift. Since Rob and I opened Cupcakeology, in 2011, our goals were always in line with growing the business into a neighborhood bakery, maybe opening multiple stores or manufacturing one of our products to sell globally. While we have CERTAINLY accomplished most of our goals, short of opening multiple stores, {although we do offer our cupcakes in other locations and ship them around the continental US}, something has changed for me. 

Growing and maintaining a successful business takes tremendous hard work and many times keeps me away from my family. Although, I am extremely grateful to have built a very successful, busy bakery, I now realize more than ever, that I want to experience the joys of life with my kids more. I want to be more mentally present when I’m with them. I want to travel with my family and experience the world TOGETHER! Nothing makes me happier than learning and experiencing new things in LIFE with Rob and my babies! 

It was then, when the first question was answered. That is what makes me most happy! 



  • Do your research
  • Read books
  • Take classes
  • Seek advice from people who are already doing what you want to do

Usually on Tuesdays and Wednesdays I create some crazy new dessert for our customers to try, and I would always think, “If only a food blogger or food influencer would come in today to taste my new creation and write about it, that would take us to the next level”. 

Egg Nog, Pumpkin Spice, Oreo cookie cake layer

One day, while reading Black Privilege: Opportunity Comes to Those Who Create It, by Charlamagne Tha God, he said, “If you want to get on radio, then CREATE a radio show yourself”. DING DING DING, “Duh Jen”, don’t sit up here and WAIT for someone to waltz into 1101 Macdade Blvd. and discover your new dessert, CREATE your own platform where you can showcase your crazy dessert creations on a more global platform and BECOME a food influencer YOURSELF!

Light bulbs

BOOM! All of the lightbulbs in the world went off in my head that morning. 

Don’t wait for opportunity to knock on your door. Knock on opportunity’s door and tell it what you want! Be intentional and take action towards living your life of happiness. There is no one stopping you but YOU! With so many available, free, resources we have at our fingertips, there is NO excuse. 

Don't Wait for opportunity to knock on your door. knock on opportunities door and tell it what you want!

The road to happiness is not an easy one! We had to figure out how to start the blog, set up the website and create content all while maintaining the very busy bakery, homeschooling Robby, being a non-paid Uber driver for Jaye and did I mention, Rob still works full-time on the trains! But when you are extremely passionate about the goal you are trying to attain, you figure it out! And building the next phase of our business around our children is my #1 goal

Let passion drive you to your goals

There is nothing that you can’t do when you planprepare and execute your vision. You may have to sacrifice some TV time, social media scrolling (unless it directly pertains to your new goal) or a few weekends out with friends. But trust me, your focus will pay off!

If your goal toward happiness is clear, keep a positive mindset, be intentional and TAKE ACTION! And watch how your life evolves into something you may not have thought you could do or change. 

But you have to put the work in and have PATIENCE! Please know that it will not happen overnight. But as long as you are making moves toward your goals, you will not be able to escape that joyous feeling that change is coming. 

Oh, and don’t forget to enjoy the JOURNEY! You will certainly have a lot of stops and maybe even delays along the way, but be sure to show gratitude for the ENTIRE process! Take it all in and learn from it. It will become a great story one day! 

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